Dear Family and Friends, Christmas 2022
Around Christmas time family and friends from all over the world gather to celebrate the birth of Jesus, even those who don’t believe or trust in Jesus. The Bible records the angels and heavenly host celebrating Jesus’ birth: “And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying: “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, goodwill toward men!” (Luke 2:14) Peace on earth. With all the violence and hatred. Is that even possible? One of the six Nobel Prizes is the Nobel Prize for Peace. You don’t have to get the Nobel Prize to be a peacemaker. A “peacemaker” is not someone who avoids conflict, but a peacemaker is someone who overcomes conflict. My Dad was a peacemaker. I believe the greatest peacemakers are those who have been through pain, discrimination and suffering. My Dad lived during WW2, in fact he volunteered for the US Army and was part of the 442nd Infantry Regiment, the most highly decorated in US history. He experienced discrimination as he and his family were placed in internment camps, because he was Japanese. Serving in the US army and then after the war, helping to get his father’s restaurant business back on its feet, cost my Dad 10 years. He started college at age 28. My Dad suffered discrimination, but I never heard him complain or see him get bitter. He told me that the real heroes never came home and that he just did his duty. I believe he used his experiences to strengthen his character. Character is the real you, who you are when no one is looking. I love the poem by Robert Frost about two paths. “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I… I took the one less traveled by. And that has made all the difference.” My Dad took the road less traveled. That is the backdrop of this year’s Christmas story. My Dad graduated from University of Washington in 1955 and he wanted to become a doctor since early childhood after a surgeon in Juneau, his hometown, saved his life after my Dad’s appendix ruptured. He got accepted into St. Louis Medical School. This was where his friendship with Dr. Roland Patillo began. In old photo albums I found pictures of my Mom and Dad and Dr. Roland Patillo and his wife. In St. Louis my brother David was born. After graduating medical school, they both decided to go to Milwaukee for their internship. Their friendship continued. Low-income housing was all they could afford. My parents found an apartment close to the hospital. My Dad asked Roland, “Why don’t you rent an apartment where we are staying?” Roland attempted but was turned down. The landlord stated that he would not rent to a Black family. Both Dr. Patillo and his wife were Black. My Dad was upset and went to the landlord, standing up for his friend. The landlord would not budge, stating that other tenants may move out if Blacks were allowed to move in. What to do when you encounter prejudice and injustices? It is often easiest to ignore or walk away. My Dad’s family was unjustly placed in internment camps for being Japanese. He experienced prejudice firsthand and knew how much it hurts. His friend Roland was experiencing prejudice and discrimination because he was Black. What would my Dad do? He went back to the landlord again. My Dad could have easily stopped there, telling himself, “well at least I tried.” What my Dad did next gave me a glimpse of my Dad’s character. My Dad took the road less traveled. When the landlord would not be persuaded, my Dad told him, “If you don’t allow the Patillos to stay here then, we’re moving out.” The landlord responded, “We like you and we don’t want you to leave, I just can’t rent a place for your friend.” When my Dad wouldn’t back down, the landlord said, “Ok, I’ll rent to the Patillos.” My Dad didn’t avoid conflict, he overcame conflict. Don’t abandon a friend when he needs you the most. I am so proud of my Dad. For my Dad, it wasn’t just Black Lives Matter, it was All Lives Matter. I witnessed this firsthand. There was no job too low for him to perform and no person too low to associate with and help out. He visited the poor and lonely, mopped the floors so a janitor could take a break, he helped a grieving mother who just delivered a still born- baptizing the baby at the mother’s request. He was a man of high standards and convictions, but never expected others to follow or force them to conform to his. I was fortunate enough to have some rub off on me. The Tanaka and Patillos got to stay in the same apartment complex and their friendship grew. No tenants moved out and all welcomed the Patillos. What a nice story and what a nice ending. Well, the story is not over. My Mom was pregnant in Milwaukee in the summer of 1959. They already had one son, David, about 18 months old. Internships are extremely grueling and difficult as it seems that you live at the hospital. I counted one week during my own internship working 118 hours and that wasn’t including travel and studying. I’m sure my Dad’s internship was no different. With a baby on the way, my Dad and Dr. Patillo had made arrangements that one of them would always be available for my Mom. July 28, 1959, my Mom’s water broke and labor started immediately. My Dad was working that day, so my Mom called Dr. Patillo. Things happened so rapidly that I started entering the world, not in the “usual way.” I was breech (feet first). After my head was delivered, I was not breathing and purple. Dr. Patillo told my Mom to pray and he’ll do his best. Dr.Patillo gave me mouth to mouth resuscitation. I turned the corner and started to breathe. My life was spared. Dr. Patillo saved my life. He was studying to be an obstetrician/gynecologist. God had arranged Dr. Patillo to have those skills and to be there. But remember that Dr. Patillo would not have been there if it wasn’t for my Dad to stand up for him. God uses man to do His will, yet He still controls all things. How does this all work out? Only God knows and that is good enough for me. ”The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and to our sons forever, that we may observe all the words of this law.” (Deuteronomy 29:29) That is what I believe “faith” is. Being confident in an all-knowing and all-powerful God to trust in Him alone with all of those unknowns. Thank you for sticking with me. Lori frequently says I talk too much. That’s probably true, but I have been becoming a better listener and that definitely is an area that you can continue to pray for me. Well, this account may be interesting, but what does this have to do with Christmas? Remember that my Dad stood up for Dr. Patillo? Jesus the Prince of Peace did not avoid conflict but overcame conflict. You may ask: “Where is the conflict?” The conflict is between us and God. “For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.’ (Romans 3:23) Since God is a “good” and “just” God, then He must punish all sins. God could not be merciful and forgive sins without someone paying for sins. Jesus came into the world to be the perfect sacrifice to pay for sins. Jesus overcame sin by paying the punishment for sin. Well Jesus not only stood up for us, but Jesus died for us. The innocent dying for the guilty. Jesus took the punishment that we deserve. The Bible says, “For this reason He (Jesus) had to be made like them, fully human in every way, in order that He might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that He might make atonement for the sins of the people.” (Hebrews 2:17) My Dad stood up for Dr. Patillo and I believe that is commendable. Jesus wants to stand up for you. He doesn’t force you to follow Him, but Jesus invites you. “Come onto Me all who are weak and heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11: 28) If you repent (turn from your sins) and turn over your life to the loving lordship of Jesus, Jesus would not only be your savior but also your best friend and nothing will ever separate you from His love. What happens when we sin? What then? “But if anybody does sin, we have an advocate with the Father- Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins and not only for ours but also for the sins of the world.” (1 John 2:1-2) Jesus is the ultimate Peacemaker. Our greatest enemy is sin and Satan and He did not avoid sin but overcame sin, Jesus didn’t avoid Satan but defeated Satan. Like my Dad, Jesus’ followers are called to love all people, even our enemies- those who are not only different from us, but also hostile toward us. “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” (John 13: 35) Christmas is a perfect time to consider your relationship with Jesus. Christianity is not a religion, but a relationship with God Himself. If you want to know more about Jesus or how to have a relationship with Jesus, it would be my honor and privilege to help you. My friend helped me to make this most important decision back in 1984. It would be the very best decision that you’ll ever make. Christmas would never be the same and your life will never be the same- for eternity and that’s a long time. Sure, on earth, there are still struggles with sins and suffering and even discrimination, but these are temporary and none of these are in heaven. “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” (Romans 8: 18) Have a blessed Christmas.
Now my favorite part: Up Close and Personal- let’s begin with the youngest first:
Jairus: Can a father ever be content that he has done all he can to prepare his son for life, this world and love? I think not. For the past several years I have been more intentional knowing that our time is quickly coming to a close. You have heard it said, “Do as I say, not as I do.” In my own life and what I have observed, a person’s life is most molded by example. It is much easier to follow one’s example. That doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect, but you have to be real. Admitting my wrongs and temptations and sins, does more to build love and trust. Entering his world and inviting him to join mine. I have been trying to have true interest in Jairus’ computer creations. His favorite computer program is Minecraft. I am amazed at all the various applications possible. He even made an amazing animated Spanish speaking video using Minecraft. He knows that it has such a draw for his attention and time, that he voluntarily limits his time and tries to get all of his school and housework done first. His goal is to be a computer engineer, which requires a college degree. With this focus, he is taking his schooling a lot more seriously. Jairus has always been homeschool, both at home and also online. Hoping that a classroom learning would be better suited to his learning style, we enrolled him into Cross Point School, a local Christian school. This did not work out, and he is now enrolled into Wilson Hill Online school and Kepler Online School. This seems to be his best school year and he is on the road to college. He is still involved with an online chess club. Both he and I love camping and fishing. We spent four nights at Mt. Rainier camping. There are so many things to do there, and we took advantage of that. One day it was very rainy, so we drove to Yakima and surprisingly there it was sunny and hot. We had fun there also and even caught the movie, Top Gun. He has two jobs in the neighborhood doing yard work. Next year he is hoping to get a regular job. Jairus’ previously untapped talent is baking breads. He has a good teacher, Elisha.
Lily: You know you are getting older when your youngest daughter is off to college. Lily wanted to have her driving license before she headed off for college. Since I'm her principal instructor, we had to schedule time to drive together. I treasured this as I knew our exclusive time together is quickly coming to an end. I told her that after she passes her driving exam, I'd take her to Cuttle Fish for fish and chips. She couldn't hide her excitement and we enjoyed a tasty lunch together. Lori flew out to Boyce College with Lily. Lily wanted to check out 3rd Avenue Baptist Church. Both were impressed and now Lily is a member of that church. They also enjoyed their first trip to Ark Encounter, which is a life size replica of Noah's Ark. What if Noah's Ark and everything else in the Bible is true? What impact would that have on how we live? "Be ready to believe!" For her birthday, Lily wanted to go to “For King and Country” concert, a Christian band. Noelle, Lily and I attended. I grew up with all the 70s and 80s rock and roll bands, but I never went to a concert like that. I'm sure Three Dog Night, Eagles, Elton John and others had great concerts, but I was so impressed with For King and Country. The group is led by two brothers, born in Australia. Their mother wrote a book,”Behind The Lights,” which I read. Like every family they have their own conflicts and struggles. I like that they are real and share it and sing about it. They even played my favorites, Burn the Ships and Love Me As I Am. One thing I love about Lily, is that she is real and not afraid to speak up for what she believes. Another thing about Lily is that when she decides to do something, she gives it her all. This summer she invited me to join her in her first running race, the Viking Fest 5 Mile. I grew up running but gave up about 10 years ago when literally everything in my body screamed pain, when I would attempt to run. I really wanted to do this for Lily, and maybe prove to myself that I could still do this. The training was miserable and painful. I found that if I ran with an elastic exercise strap around both legs it was better. I even ran the race with it. It was a perfect sunny day and most of the race was along Poulsbo waterfront. We ran together for the first mile and then I told her to go ahead, and I'll see her at the finish line. I eventually caught up to her and we ran the last mile together except she sprinted to the finish line. She got second place for her age. I am so proud of her. She wanted to know if I would do it again. My "mind is willing but my flesh is weak." I have one year to prepare. Lily still has a podcast on Spotify called “Inspire,” you should check it out.
Noelle: Noelle followed Lily to Central Market but worked in the deli. She may not be the most decisive but a great asset to have on your team. This is her second year at Boyce College, going for a degree in Biblical studies. She is still saving for a Ford Mustang. She is marketing supervisor for Scholars & Founders coffee shops at Boyce College. She also is associate designer at MasterWorks. She is on the worship team at Clifton Baptist Church. With all of her social activities, somehow she still keeps up her grades. Maybe she sacrifices her sleep. She loves to post pictures of her and her friends at Boyce. The Fall Fest includes rides, bands and fireworks. At least I know where some of the money goes. She does some amazing pencil drawings and has even been hired. Even her doodling I think is good enough to be framed. She is a faithful friend and didn’t allow the distance of Kentucky to weakness that friendship and was in her friend’s wedding. She has a growing love for God and His ways, and eventually would like to be involved in a non-profit Christian ministry.
Aaron: Aaron graduated UW with a Mechanical engineering degree. We were all able to be there for his graduation. Congratulations! That's a great accomplishment! He is still working for PABCO roofing manufacturing company. It's not his career job, but pays him well to finance his true passion, his now turbocharged 5 speed Lexus coupe. It puts out over 350 horsepower. Its plenty of power for me, but he wants more. He is and has some loyal friends. Aerial views of Mt.Saint Helens from his friend's plane were amazing! I still look forward to hitting the slopes again this winter. Trying to stay up with him is not only getting scary but risky. “Race you to the bottom!” We both enjoy those times together. He works the days I have off but we still have been able to squeeze in working on his car, some pizza and a movie. Entering his world and being open and available helps us to keep as connected as we can.
Kristi: Kristi moved to the Washington DC area about one year ago. She has some great friends and attends a great church. She is involved in their outreach ministry and attends a mid-week Bible study. She moved into what qualifies for "tiny" room, with barely room for a bed, and recently moved up to a"small" room. She works remotely, and one huge advantage is that she can travel a lot. She house-sat in a mansion in California. She got COVID-19 there but at least she had a beautiful home and after her isolation she got to travel. She showed up here as a surprise for Jairus’s birthday party at Defy, an indoor trampoline park. Kristi and I went to the Space Needle for our father: daughter date, which we missed because I didn't make reservations soon enough. What a fun date! She made it to Lori's graduation in May in Pennsylvania. Later we toured DC and went to the National Art Gallery. Both of us love to paint. I was amazed and inspired. She visited Lori's sister's family and two aunts in the Chicago area and met up with Jon at JAG School in Virginia. I always look forward to her visits as she brings joy wherever she goes. The heavy snow falls around Thanksgiving time convinced her to stay here through Christmas! That gives us more time with her. Thank you God for the snow!
Bethany: Bethany had been working full time at Central Market for almost one year as Courtesy Clerk, whose main job is bagging, but also has to clean the bathrooms and around her work area. She is saving for a car. She drives the 15-passenger van and impresses her coworkers. I know that they are jealous. :) It's hard to believe that the catalytic converter was stolen from this van when it was parked at Central Market. Now that's boldness! One unforeseen blessing from her work is that she connected with two other musicians, and they are now a group called, “The Tanakas." One plays guitar and sings, the other plays bass and Bethany plays violin or keyboard. What a fun group! Got to listen to them jam, had dinner together and even played games together. Ivan and Ryan both love music from the 70s and 80s. That’s my era! We played Rock and Roll Trivia Pursuit. Even though that is when I grew up listening to, I haven’t seriously listened to that music for over 40 years. If “The Tanakas” ever get famous, you know how they got started. Bethany has her own podcast, on Spotify called “Hope In Weakness.” She is honest about her life, her struggles and her hope. Over 50 episodes. I've listened to most of them. I've learned a lot. She hopes to offer help, healing and hope to her followers. She still loves East Indian food but recently can't eat spicy foods. There is a restaurant called Punjab Indian Restaurant right here in Poulsbo and I treated her to take out. It was delicious and not spicy. Where do you go to recharge and connect? The ocean is Bethany's place. It's nice as the state park is only one mile away. Discovery Bay is her all-time favorite and only 30 minutes away. We all need a safe place to connect and recharge. Where is your place?
Stefanie and Elisha are doing so well as parents. It seems to come so naturally for both of them. Xanthi is now walking all over the place. She talks a lot, but I have no idea what she is saying, except, "yah." They just celebrated their 2nd anniversary in Leavenworth. They complement each other so well! Looking through antiques seems to be a shared activity they both enjoy. Elisha's music teaching business is going well, and online possibility gives him some flexibility. He also is doing some instrument repair. At their home there is usually an instrument in various stages of repair. I hope the orchestra starts again. It didn't help that most of the orchestra consisted of our family which moved away. Elisha’s music studio Christmas recital was held at our church, and I was so impressed that his students vary from very young to older and all skill levels.
Jonathan & Emma: It is always special to have Jonathan and Emma over. It always seems too short and not often enough. It was so nice to have them over for Thanksgiving. We actually had everyone here. One thing different is that we had to share the visit with the Roses and Trotters. We still had time to go out for coffee, dinner and Jonathan and I even squeezed in a bike ride mostly at night with headlamps to Port Gamble and back. He got a good workout, and I had an electric bike. It was fun. In Texas Jonathan does a lot more biking. They don’t have the hills we have here, but he gets in the miles. He has an app on his phone, called Strava, that tracks his mileage and altitude gain. I just went over 1000 miles and 43,000 vertical feet. Wow! I just placed Strava on my phone. It will be fun tracking our progress and bike rides. Jonathan and Tom, a former Liberty Law school classmate, have a law firm near Austin, Texas. Jonathan and I both commute to work about the same time, so that works out for us to connect. Emma is a nanny and also sells amazing candles that not only smell wonderful but also keep you healthy. The Hopkins have been doing farmer’s markets for decades.
Amy & Jon:Jon and Amy live in Seabeck, a beautiful community along the Hood Canal and nestled below the Olympic Mountains. Some great hiking and fishing right there. Jet is now 4 years old and Rezi 2. They just celebrated their 5th anniversary. Jon planned a surprise rededication of their wedding vows and wanted me to give them another charge as I did at their wedding. It was at Illahee State Park. I tried to hide the Prius but Amy spotted and recognized it. So hard to surprise Amy. The weather was perfect and the beach beautiful, pouring of colored sand and cake. Only one problem, Jon could hardly read his handwritten vows. I always say it is the heart that counts, and Jon has a wonderful heart. I've been able to go to his young lawyer’s picnic, JBLM (Joint Base Lewis McChord- army and air force base) Family Day. For family day they actually went over the Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman. I got to sit next to and talk with Jon's commanding officer. It's so good to know that the army is taking extra strides to care for their soldiers and officers and their corresponding families, who sacrifice so much to serve. Each soldier and officer received the book. There are perks also. They got to be in South Korea, shop in the PX, get all fancy and attend the military ball. Jon serves as a deacon in our church. He has a servant's heart and helps the church with his legal counsel. Five men (Jon, Jared, Tyler, Gordon and I) in the church went winter camping. Why? For the challenge, for the adventure and most of all for the fellowship. They want to go again. Count me in. Those grandchildren keep me young, and I love them!
Lori: Lori and I just celebrated our 34nd wedding anniversary. This I believe was our best anniversary ever! I've read and listened to many marriage books but the one I keep referring back to is called Peacemaker, by Ken Sande. Principles are all based on the Bible and would work and improve any relationship. One of the professors at Westminster, Dr. Powlison before he passed away said, that (paraphrased: our past influences but does not dictate who we are. I find this so true. Lori's past is so different from my past. I never realized the negative influences of Lori's past and how that continues to influence her even now. I need to be a lifelong student of Lori. The intentions of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out. (Proverbs 20:5) Lori graduated this year after five years with a master’s degree in Biblical counseling. That involved a lot of reading, writing and practical applications. She is a much better reader and writer than I am. I was a lot younger when I needed to push myself academically. I am certain that I don’t have what it took her to get that degree. Great job! I am proud of you. We flew out to Pennsylvania for her graduation. Amy and Kristi joined us. So good to meet some of Lori's teachers and students. Got a tour of Westminster Seminary. It is one of the few that has remained faithful to the Bible. Harvard, Yale, Princeton and others began as seminaries to train men for pastoral ministry but have abandoned and rejected their roots. It's been a year of much to celebrate and many disappointments. She applied for an internship and also an online instructor. Internship was postponed and she was not chosen for the online instructor position. She would like to have her own counseling business but that also intimidates her. In some way she would like to relax and do quilting. She took a quilting class back when Amy was probably two years old. In order to focus her attention on marriage and homeschooling, she put away her quilting supplies and dreams. Lori recently took another quilting class. As the children are growing up and moving out, her passion for quilting has blossomed again. I got her a quilting machine and Lily got her an embroidery machine. Lori and I used to go see plays and musicals. Just started adding this back into our lives. Recently we went the the play, “Foreigner.” It was well done, but not as funny as the play we saw over 20 years ago.
Rich: I look back at my life 63 years, 38 years as a Christian, 34 years of marriage, 9 children, 3 grandchildren, 37 years as a doctor. I have been so blessed! All of the coworkers I began with, have retired. My nurse Kathy is retiring after 35 years and my nurse for 23 years. She is also a Christian and together we brought special compassionate care to our patients. I will miss her, and I know my patients will surely miss her. This year Lori and I went to an Airbnb near Deception Pass. We found a great quilting shop there and Lori found some great fabric there and on sale making it even better. We did some hiking which I love. 14 years ago, I had all nine children on that Deception Pass bridge. The wind of a passing semi-truck blew off my hat and I reached down to drab it. I felt my youngest son, Jairus, being launched out of the backpack. I reached back and barely caught hold of his shoe. God saved his life and mine as I hoped I would have jumped off to save him. Thoughts of this still bother me. I know I will one day retire also but then what. Currently serving in a ministry reaching out to international students at Olympic College and attending mid-week Bible study. I love Mt. Rainier, backpacking hiking, gardening, yard work, going to plays and musicals, skiing. Over the past year, I have been listening to audio books and sermons during my commute and when doing yard work. These have so much enriched my life and thinking. I am now reading books. As the children are growing up and leaving the home, soon it will be just Lori and I. My good friend challenged me by confronting me that I am not leading my marriage and family. Lori can't be my helper if I'm not leading. I needed that! Life is more than communicating, listening, avoiding conflict, meeting others’ needs. I think I have been so focused on raising children and not enough on marriage God's way. God has been showing me that I am but a vapor. On the 4th of July I fell off our roof as the ladder slid out as I was coming down. Falling headfirst onto our cement driveway, I thought this was it. By a miracle, God protected me as I only sprained my right wrist. I feel like I get a second (or in my case a tenth chance). My friend challenged me, that I may have 25 to 30 years of marriage left, how are you going to live it? It felt like a slug to my gut but so much needed. “A friend loves at all times… I am so grateful to have friends like that to speak into my life and hopefully I have opportunities to speak into their lives also.
“Peace on earth, goodwill to men.” Jesus is the Prince of Peace to make peace between God and man. God calls us to “Live in peace with one another.” (1 Thessalonians 5: 13) Remember all lives matter to God, therefore all lives should matter to each of us. Peace is not always possible. “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.” (Romans 12:18) May you find greater peace with those around you and especially with God. I look forward to connecting with you. Send me an email. Have a blessed Christmas, from our family to yours.
Rich
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Around Christmas time family and friends from all over the world gather to celebrate the birth of Jesus, even those who don’t believe or trust in Jesus. The Bible records the angels and heavenly host celebrating Jesus’ birth: “And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying: “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, goodwill toward men!” (Luke 2:14) Peace on earth. With all the violence and hatred. Is that even possible? One of the six Nobel Prizes is the Nobel Prize for Peace. You don’t have to get the Nobel Prize to be a peacemaker. A “peacemaker” is not someone who avoids conflict, but a peacemaker is someone who overcomes conflict. My Dad was a peacemaker. I believe the greatest peacemakers are those who have been through pain, discrimination and suffering. My Dad lived during WW2, in fact he volunteered for the US Army and was part of the 442nd Infantry Regiment, the most highly decorated in US history. He experienced discrimination as he and his family were placed in internment camps, because he was Japanese. Serving in the US army and then after the war, helping to get his father’s restaurant business back on its feet, cost my Dad 10 years. He started college at age 28. My Dad suffered discrimination, but I never heard him complain or see him get bitter. He told me that the real heroes never came home and that he just did his duty. I believe he used his experiences to strengthen his character. Character is the real you, who you are when no one is looking. I love the poem by Robert Frost about two paths. “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I… I took the one less traveled by. And that has made all the difference.” My Dad took the road less traveled. That is the backdrop of this year’s Christmas story. My Dad graduated from University of Washington in 1955 and he wanted to become a doctor since early childhood after a surgeon in Juneau, his hometown, saved his life after my Dad’s appendix ruptured. He got accepted into St. Louis Medical School. This was where his friendship with Dr. Roland Patillo began. In old photo albums I found pictures of my Mom and Dad and Dr. Roland Patillo and his wife. In St. Louis my brother David was born. After graduating medical school, they both decided to go to Milwaukee for their internship. Their friendship continued. Low-income housing was all they could afford. My parents found an apartment close to the hospital. My Dad asked Roland, “Why don’t you rent an apartment where we are staying?” Roland attempted but was turned down. The landlord stated that he would not rent to a Black family. Both Dr. Patillo and his wife were Black. My Dad was upset and went to the landlord, standing up for his friend. The landlord would not budge, stating that other tenants may move out if Blacks were allowed to move in. What to do when you encounter prejudice and injustices? It is often easiest to ignore or walk away. My Dad’s family was unjustly placed in internment camps for being Japanese. He experienced prejudice firsthand and knew how much it hurts. His friend Roland was experiencing prejudice and discrimination because he was Black. What would my Dad do? He went back to the landlord again. My Dad could have easily stopped there, telling himself, “well at least I tried.” What my Dad did next gave me a glimpse of my Dad’s character. My Dad took the road less traveled. When the landlord would not be persuaded, my Dad told him, “If you don’t allow the Patillos to stay here then, we’re moving out.” The landlord responded, “We like you and we don’t want you to leave, I just can’t rent a place for your friend.” When my Dad wouldn’t back down, the landlord said, “Ok, I’ll rent to the Patillos.” My Dad didn’t avoid conflict, he overcame conflict. Don’t abandon a friend when he needs you the most. I am so proud of my Dad. For my Dad, it wasn’t just Black Lives Matter, it was All Lives Matter. I witnessed this firsthand. There was no job too low for him to perform and no person too low to associate with and help out. He visited the poor and lonely, mopped the floors so a janitor could take a break, he helped a grieving mother who just delivered a still born- baptizing the baby at the mother’s request. He was a man of high standards and convictions, but never expected others to follow or force them to conform to his. I was fortunate enough to have some rub off on me. The Tanaka and Patillos got to stay in the same apartment complex and their friendship grew. No tenants moved out and all welcomed the Patillos. What a nice story and what a nice ending. Well, the story is not over. My Mom was pregnant in Milwaukee in the summer of 1959. They already had one son, David, about 18 months old. Internships are extremely grueling and difficult as it seems that you live at the hospital. I counted one week during my own internship working 118 hours and that wasn’t including travel and studying. I’m sure my Dad’s internship was no different. With a baby on the way, my Dad and Dr. Patillo had made arrangements that one of them would always be available for my Mom. July 28, 1959, my Mom’s water broke and labor started immediately. My Dad was working that day, so my Mom called Dr. Patillo. Things happened so rapidly that I started entering the world, not in the “usual way.” I was breech (feet first). After my head was delivered, I was not breathing and purple. Dr. Patillo told my Mom to pray and he’ll do his best. Dr.Patillo gave me mouth to mouth resuscitation. I turned the corner and started to breathe. My life was spared. Dr. Patillo saved my life. He was studying to be an obstetrician/gynecologist. God had arranged Dr. Patillo to have those skills and to be there. But remember that Dr. Patillo would not have been there if it wasn’t for my Dad to stand up for him. God uses man to do His will, yet He still controls all things. How does this all work out? Only God knows and that is good enough for me. ”The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and to our sons forever, that we may observe all the words of this law.” (Deuteronomy 29:29) That is what I believe “faith” is. Being confident in an all-knowing and all-powerful God to trust in Him alone with all of those unknowns. Thank you for sticking with me. Lori frequently says I talk too much. That’s probably true, but I have been becoming a better listener and that definitely is an area that you can continue to pray for me. Well, this account may be interesting, but what does this have to do with Christmas? Remember that my Dad stood up for Dr. Patillo? Jesus the Prince of Peace did not avoid conflict but overcame conflict. You may ask: “Where is the conflict?” The conflict is between us and God. “For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.’ (Romans 3:23) Since God is a “good” and “just” God, then He must punish all sins. God could not be merciful and forgive sins without someone paying for sins. Jesus came into the world to be the perfect sacrifice to pay for sins. Jesus overcame sin by paying the punishment for sin. Well Jesus not only stood up for us, but Jesus died for us. The innocent dying for the guilty. Jesus took the punishment that we deserve. The Bible says, “For this reason He (Jesus) had to be made like them, fully human in every way, in order that He might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that He might make atonement for the sins of the people.” (Hebrews 2:17) My Dad stood up for Dr. Patillo and I believe that is commendable. Jesus wants to stand up for you. He doesn’t force you to follow Him, but Jesus invites you. “Come onto Me all who are weak and heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11: 28) If you repent (turn from your sins) and turn over your life to the loving lordship of Jesus, Jesus would not only be your savior but also your best friend and nothing will ever separate you from His love. What happens when we sin? What then? “But if anybody does sin, we have an advocate with the Father- Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins and not only for ours but also for the sins of the world.” (1 John 2:1-2) Jesus is the ultimate Peacemaker. Our greatest enemy is sin and Satan and He did not avoid sin but overcame sin, Jesus didn’t avoid Satan but defeated Satan. Like my Dad, Jesus’ followers are called to love all people, even our enemies- those who are not only different from us, but also hostile toward us. “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” (John 13: 35) Christmas is a perfect time to consider your relationship with Jesus. Christianity is not a religion, but a relationship with God Himself. If you want to know more about Jesus or how to have a relationship with Jesus, it would be my honor and privilege to help you. My friend helped me to make this most important decision back in 1984. It would be the very best decision that you’ll ever make. Christmas would never be the same and your life will never be the same- for eternity and that’s a long time. Sure, on earth, there are still struggles with sins and suffering and even discrimination, but these are temporary and none of these are in heaven. “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” (Romans 8: 18) Have a blessed Christmas.
Now my favorite part: Up Close and Personal- let’s begin with the youngest first:
Jairus: Can a father ever be content that he has done all he can to prepare his son for life, this world and love? I think not. For the past several years I have been more intentional knowing that our time is quickly coming to a close. You have heard it said, “Do as I say, not as I do.” In my own life and what I have observed, a person’s life is most molded by example. It is much easier to follow one’s example. That doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect, but you have to be real. Admitting my wrongs and temptations and sins, does more to build love and trust. Entering his world and inviting him to join mine. I have been trying to have true interest in Jairus’ computer creations. His favorite computer program is Minecraft. I am amazed at all the various applications possible. He even made an amazing animated Spanish speaking video using Minecraft. He knows that it has such a draw for his attention and time, that he voluntarily limits his time and tries to get all of his school and housework done first. His goal is to be a computer engineer, which requires a college degree. With this focus, he is taking his schooling a lot more seriously. Jairus has always been homeschool, both at home and also online. Hoping that a classroom learning would be better suited to his learning style, we enrolled him into Cross Point School, a local Christian school. This did not work out, and he is now enrolled into Wilson Hill Online school and Kepler Online School. This seems to be his best school year and he is on the road to college. He is still involved with an online chess club. Both he and I love camping and fishing. We spent four nights at Mt. Rainier camping. There are so many things to do there, and we took advantage of that. One day it was very rainy, so we drove to Yakima and surprisingly there it was sunny and hot. We had fun there also and even caught the movie, Top Gun. He has two jobs in the neighborhood doing yard work. Next year he is hoping to get a regular job. Jairus’ previously untapped talent is baking breads. He has a good teacher, Elisha.
Lily: You know you are getting older when your youngest daughter is off to college. Lily wanted to have her driving license before she headed off for college. Since I'm her principal instructor, we had to schedule time to drive together. I treasured this as I knew our exclusive time together is quickly coming to an end. I told her that after she passes her driving exam, I'd take her to Cuttle Fish for fish and chips. She couldn't hide her excitement and we enjoyed a tasty lunch together. Lori flew out to Boyce College with Lily. Lily wanted to check out 3rd Avenue Baptist Church. Both were impressed and now Lily is a member of that church. They also enjoyed their first trip to Ark Encounter, which is a life size replica of Noah's Ark. What if Noah's Ark and everything else in the Bible is true? What impact would that have on how we live? "Be ready to believe!" For her birthday, Lily wanted to go to “For King and Country” concert, a Christian band. Noelle, Lily and I attended. I grew up with all the 70s and 80s rock and roll bands, but I never went to a concert like that. I'm sure Three Dog Night, Eagles, Elton John and others had great concerts, but I was so impressed with For King and Country. The group is led by two brothers, born in Australia. Their mother wrote a book,”Behind The Lights,” which I read. Like every family they have their own conflicts and struggles. I like that they are real and share it and sing about it. They even played my favorites, Burn the Ships and Love Me As I Am. One thing I love about Lily, is that she is real and not afraid to speak up for what she believes. Another thing about Lily is that when she decides to do something, she gives it her all. This summer she invited me to join her in her first running race, the Viking Fest 5 Mile. I grew up running but gave up about 10 years ago when literally everything in my body screamed pain, when I would attempt to run. I really wanted to do this for Lily, and maybe prove to myself that I could still do this. The training was miserable and painful. I found that if I ran with an elastic exercise strap around both legs it was better. I even ran the race with it. It was a perfect sunny day and most of the race was along Poulsbo waterfront. We ran together for the first mile and then I told her to go ahead, and I'll see her at the finish line. I eventually caught up to her and we ran the last mile together except she sprinted to the finish line. She got second place for her age. I am so proud of her. She wanted to know if I would do it again. My "mind is willing but my flesh is weak." I have one year to prepare. Lily still has a podcast on Spotify called “Inspire,” you should check it out.
Noelle: Noelle followed Lily to Central Market but worked in the deli. She may not be the most decisive but a great asset to have on your team. This is her second year at Boyce College, going for a degree in Biblical studies. She is still saving for a Ford Mustang. She is marketing supervisor for Scholars & Founders coffee shops at Boyce College. She also is associate designer at MasterWorks. She is on the worship team at Clifton Baptist Church. With all of her social activities, somehow she still keeps up her grades. Maybe she sacrifices her sleep. She loves to post pictures of her and her friends at Boyce. The Fall Fest includes rides, bands and fireworks. At least I know where some of the money goes. She does some amazing pencil drawings and has even been hired. Even her doodling I think is good enough to be framed. She is a faithful friend and didn’t allow the distance of Kentucky to weakness that friendship and was in her friend’s wedding. She has a growing love for God and His ways, and eventually would like to be involved in a non-profit Christian ministry.
Aaron: Aaron graduated UW with a Mechanical engineering degree. We were all able to be there for his graduation. Congratulations! That's a great accomplishment! He is still working for PABCO roofing manufacturing company. It's not his career job, but pays him well to finance his true passion, his now turbocharged 5 speed Lexus coupe. It puts out over 350 horsepower. Its plenty of power for me, but he wants more. He is and has some loyal friends. Aerial views of Mt.Saint Helens from his friend's plane were amazing! I still look forward to hitting the slopes again this winter. Trying to stay up with him is not only getting scary but risky. “Race you to the bottom!” We both enjoy those times together. He works the days I have off but we still have been able to squeeze in working on his car, some pizza and a movie. Entering his world and being open and available helps us to keep as connected as we can.
Kristi: Kristi moved to the Washington DC area about one year ago. She has some great friends and attends a great church. She is involved in their outreach ministry and attends a mid-week Bible study. She moved into what qualifies for "tiny" room, with barely room for a bed, and recently moved up to a"small" room. She works remotely, and one huge advantage is that she can travel a lot. She house-sat in a mansion in California. She got COVID-19 there but at least she had a beautiful home and after her isolation she got to travel. She showed up here as a surprise for Jairus’s birthday party at Defy, an indoor trampoline park. Kristi and I went to the Space Needle for our father: daughter date, which we missed because I didn't make reservations soon enough. What a fun date! She made it to Lori's graduation in May in Pennsylvania. Later we toured DC and went to the National Art Gallery. Both of us love to paint. I was amazed and inspired. She visited Lori's sister's family and two aunts in the Chicago area and met up with Jon at JAG School in Virginia. I always look forward to her visits as she brings joy wherever she goes. The heavy snow falls around Thanksgiving time convinced her to stay here through Christmas! That gives us more time with her. Thank you God for the snow!
Bethany: Bethany had been working full time at Central Market for almost one year as Courtesy Clerk, whose main job is bagging, but also has to clean the bathrooms and around her work area. She is saving for a car. She drives the 15-passenger van and impresses her coworkers. I know that they are jealous. :) It's hard to believe that the catalytic converter was stolen from this van when it was parked at Central Market. Now that's boldness! One unforeseen blessing from her work is that she connected with two other musicians, and they are now a group called, “The Tanakas." One plays guitar and sings, the other plays bass and Bethany plays violin or keyboard. What a fun group! Got to listen to them jam, had dinner together and even played games together. Ivan and Ryan both love music from the 70s and 80s. That’s my era! We played Rock and Roll Trivia Pursuit. Even though that is when I grew up listening to, I haven’t seriously listened to that music for over 40 years. If “The Tanakas” ever get famous, you know how they got started. Bethany has her own podcast, on Spotify called “Hope In Weakness.” She is honest about her life, her struggles and her hope. Over 50 episodes. I've listened to most of them. I've learned a lot. She hopes to offer help, healing and hope to her followers. She still loves East Indian food but recently can't eat spicy foods. There is a restaurant called Punjab Indian Restaurant right here in Poulsbo and I treated her to take out. It was delicious and not spicy. Where do you go to recharge and connect? The ocean is Bethany's place. It's nice as the state park is only one mile away. Discovery Bay is her all-time favorite and only 30 minutes away. We all need a safe place to connect and recharge. Where is your place?
Stefanie and Elisha are doing so well as parents. It seems to come so naturally for both of them. Xanthi is now walking all over the place. She talks a lot, but I have no idea what she is saying, except, "yah." They just celebrated their 2nd anniversary in Leavenworth. They complement each other so well! Looking through antiques seems to be a shared activity they both enjoy. Elisha's music teaching business is going well, and online possibility gives him some flexibility. He also is doing some instrument repair. At their home there is usually an instrument in various stages of repair. I hope the orchestra starts again. It didn't help that most of the orchestra consisted of our family which moved away. Elisha’s music studio Christmas recital was held at our church, and I was so impressed that his students vary from very young to older and all skill levels.
Jonathan & Emma: It is always special to have Jonathan and Emma over. It always seems too short and not often enough. It was so nice to have them over for Thanksgiving. We actually had everyone here. One thing different is that we had to share the visit with the Roses and Trotters. We still had time to go out for coffee, dinner and Jonathan and I even squeezed in a bike ride mostly at night with headlamps to Port Gamble and back. He got a good workout, and I had an electric bike. It was fun. In Texas Jonathan does a lot more biking. They don’t have the hills we have here, but he gets in the miles. He has an app on his phone, called Strava, that tracks his mileage and altitude gain. I just went over 1000 miles and 43,000 vertical feet. Wow! I just placed Strava on my phone. It will be fun tracking our progress and bike rides. Jonathan and Tom, a former Liberty Law school classmate, have a law firm near Austin, Texas. Jonathan and I both commute to work about the same time, so that works out for us to connect. Emma is a nanny and also sells amazing candles that not only smell wonderful but also keep you healthy. The Hopkins have been doing farmer’s markets for decades.
Amy & Jon:Jon and Amy live in Seabeck, a beautiful community along the Hood Canal and nestled below the Olympic Mountains. Some great hiking and fishing right there. Jet is now 4 years old and Rezi 2. They just celebrated their 5th anniversary. Jon planned a surprise rededication of their wedding vows and wanted me to give them another charge as I did at their wedding. It was at Illahee State Park. I tried to hide the Prius but Amy spotted and recognized it. So hard to surprise Amy. The weather was perfect and the beach beautiful, pouring of colored sand and cake. Only one problem, Jon could hardly read his handwritten vows. I always say it is the heart that counts, and Jon has a wonderful heart. I've been able to go to his young lawyer’s picnic, JBLM (Joint Base Lewis McChord- army and air force base) Family Day. For family day they actually went over the Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman. I got to sit next to and talk with Jon's commanding officer. It's so good to know that the army is taking extra strides to care for their soldiers and officers and their corresponding families, who sacrifice so much to serve. Each soldier and officer received the book. There are perks also. They got to be in South Korea, shop in the PX, get all fancy and attend the military ball. Jon serves as a deacon in our church. He has a servant's heart and helps the church with his legal counsel. Five men (Jon, Jared, Tyler, Gordon and I) in the church went winter camping. Why? For the challenge, for the adventure and most of all for the fellowship. They want to go again. Count me in. Those grandchildren keep me young, and I love them!
Lori: Lori and I just celebrated our 34nd wedding anniversary. This I believe was our best anniversary ever! I've read and listened to many marriage books but the one I keep referring back to is called Peacemaker, by Ken Sande. Principles are all based on the Bible and would work and improve any relationship. One of the professors at Westminster, Dr. Powlison before he passed away said, that (paraphrased: our past influences but does not dictate who we are. I find this so true. Lori's past is so different from my past. I never realized the negative influences of Lori's past and how that continues to influence her even now. I need to be a lifelong student of Lori. The intentions of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out. (Proverbs 20:5) Lori graduated this year after five years with a master’s degree in Biblical counseling. That involved a lot of reading, writing and practical applications. She is a much better reader and writer than I am. I was a lot younger when I needed to push myself academically. I am certain that I don’t have what it took her to get that degree. Great job! I am proud of you. We flew out to Pennsylvania for her graduation. Amy and Kristi joined us. So good to meet some of Lori's teachers and students. Got a tour of Westminster Seminary. It is one of the few that has remained faithful to the Bible. Harvard, Yale, Princeton and others began as seminaries to train men for pastoral ministry but have abandoned and rejected their roots. It's been a year of much to celebrate and many disappointments. She applied for an internship and also an online instructor. Internship was postponed and she was not chosen for the online instructor position. She would like to have her own counseling business but that also intimidates her. In some way she would like to relax and do quilting. She took a quilting class back when Amy was probably two years old. In order to focus her attention on marriage and homeschooling, she put away her quilting supplies and dreams. Lori recently took another quilting class. As the children are growing up and moving out, her passion for quilting has blossomed again. I got her a quilting machine and Lily got her an embroidery machine. Lori and I used to go see plays and musicals. Just started adding this back into our lives. Recently we went the the play, “Foreigner.” It was well done, but not as funny as the play we saw over 20 years ago.
Rich: I look back at my life 63 years, 38 years as a Christian, 34 years of marriage, 9 children, 3 grandchildren, 37 years as a doctor. I have been so blessed! All of the coworkers I began with, have retired. My nurse Kathy is retiring after 35 years and my nurse for 23 years. She is also a Christian and together we brought special compassionate care to our patients. I will miss her, and I know my patients will surely miss her. This year Lori and I went to an Airbnb near Deception Pass. We found a great quilting shop there and Lori found some great fabric there and on sale making it even better. We did some hiking which I love. 14 years ago, I had all nine children on that Deception Pass bridge. The wind of a passing semi-truck blew off my hat and I reached down to drab it. I felt my youngest son, Jairus, being launched out of the backpack. I reached back and barely caught hold of his shoe. God saved his life and mine as I hoped I would have jumped off to save him. Thoughts of this still bother me. I know I will one day retire also but then what. Currently serving in a ministry reaching out to international students at Olympic College and attending mid-week Bible study. I love Mt. Rainier, backpacking hiking, gardening, yard work, going to plays and musicals, skiing. Over the past year, I have been listening to audio books and sermons during my commute and when doing yard work. These have so much enriched my life and thinking. I am now reading books. As the children are growing up and leaving the home, soon it will be just Lori and I. My good friend challenged me by confronting me that I am not leading my marriage and family. Lori can't be my helper if I'm not leading. I needed that! Life is more than communicating, listening, avoiding conflict, meeting others’ needs. I think I have been so focused on raising children and not enough on marriage God's way. God has been showing me that I am but a vapor. On the 4th of July I fell off our roof as the ladder slid out as I was coming down. Falling headfirst onto our cement driveway, I thought this was it. By a miracle, God protected me as I only sprained my right wrist. I feel like I get a second (or in my case a tenth chance). My friend challenged me, that I may have 25 to 30 years of marriage left, how are you going to live it? It felt like a slug to my gut but so much needed. “A friend loves at all times… I am so grateful to have friends like that to speak into my life and hopefully I have opportunities to speak into their lives also.
“Peace on earth, goodwill to men.” Jesus is the Prince of Peace to make peace between God and man. God calls us to “Live in peace with one another.” (1 Thessalonians 5: 13) Remember all lives matter to God, therefore all lives should matter to each of us. Peace is not always possible. “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.” (Romans 12:18) May you find greater peace with those around you and especially with God. I look forward to connecting with you. Send me an email. Have a blessed Christmas, from our family to yours.
Rich
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